Hard For Him, Hard For Me Too
Hi,
I got to write on something today.
I went for a charity work today with my second brother. We did something that at least make some people happy today.
I back home at 3pm. And to my surprised, abg did not sms or make a phone call till that 3pm. It puzzled me. I felt something wrong. I gave him a called. And he sound not as usual. He still was at his work place. And he just answered my phone very brief and short. He said, something up and he will call me before he off home.
Until 5pm he still did not called me. Am getting worried. I got a hush feeling inside. I’m afraid, he had a quarreled with kakak. So I decide not to call him and wait. At 6.35 I received his sms. Informed me that he is in a hotel. My goodness. I was right. I had a right thought about what happened to him.
Straightly, I called him. Luckily I still have the number. And I hardly can’t wait to know what had happened. The moment he heard my voice, he just said, he did not know what else to do to kakak. He sounds so weak, sound so hopeless. I asked what was wrong this time. I wanted to know whether they had fight or what last night. He said no.
He told that, kakak was asked to sell all the properties. Included the business that she’s running right now. I can’t believe for what he told me. Abg said, kakak has been too much now. Abg told me, he can let kakak to do for whatever she wants right now. But he believe she won’t survive. For the second thought, I’m with abg this time. He was absolutely right there. Kakak might felt she doesn’t need abg anymore. Tapi itu hanya pada fikirannya yang singkat. She got to see it for her future. Maybe this time she doesn’t need him, but how about in 5 years or in 10 years time?
Betullah kata org, kalau dah benci nak pandang sebelah mata pun dah tak ingin lagi. Abg dag tak tahu macam mana nak buat. Dia kesian dengan kakak. He did told me as well, kalau terjadi apa2 dia akan sentiasa beri nafkah. I told him, that a must, tanggungjawab kena buat.
But he did not tell me something, abt kakak had filled in the form tuntut fasakh. What ?????
I know him for quite a long time. But I never know how far about his marriage problem. Abg seldom told about his problem. Apalagi nak cerita pasal kakak. Sikit-sikit ada lah, I respect him for that, menjaga cerita hal elwal rumahtangga adalah satu ibadah juga.
And today, he told me what the people around said about him and his marriage. All the stories came from kakak. Even some of his friends did not believe for what they heard. And today, kakak was sent a “spy” too, to his workplace.
Susahnya untuk mempertahankan satu-satu perkahwinan. I’m still pray that they will still keep together. I hope kakak will see clearly for what she’s really want. I pity on her for not seeing what she had right now. But in the other hand, she might now better than me..right? She had lived with abg for more than 25 years. She knows better than me.
And, at this moment, while I’m writing here, abg, kakak , K (their best friend) and kadhi were at his home. They are having a discussion. And again, I can’t wait to know.
All the best kakak. Pray that Allah will open up your heart. Amin.
I got to write on something today.
I went for a charity work today with my second brother. We did something that at least make some people happy today.
I back home at 3pm. And to my surprised, abg did not sms or make a phone call till that 3pm. It puzzled me. I felt something wrong. I gave him a called. And he sound not as usual. He still was at his work place. And he just answered my phone very brief and short. He said, something up and he will call me before he off home.
Until 5pm he still did not called me. Am getting worried. I got a hush feeling inside. I’m afraid, he had a quarreled with kakak. So I decide not to call him and wait. At 6.35 I received his sms. Informed me that he is in a hotel. My goodness. I was right. I had a right thought about what happened to him.
Straightly, I called him. Luckily I still have the number. And I hardly can’t wait to know what had happened. The moment he heard my voice, he just said, he did not know what else to do to kakak. He sounds so weak, sound so hopeless. I asked what was wrong this time. I wanted to know whether they had fight or what last night. He said no.
He told that, kakak was asked to sell all the properties. Included the business that she’s running right now. I can’t believe for what he told me. Abg said, kakak has been too much now. Abg told me, he can let kakak to do for whatever she wants right now. But he believe she won’t survive. For the second thought, I’m with abg this time. He was absolutely right there. Kakak might felt she doesn’t need abg anymore. Tapi itu hanya pada fikirannya yang singkat. She got to see it for her future. Maybe this time she doesn’t need him, but how about in 5 years or in 10 years time?
Betullah kata org, kalau dah benci nak pandang sebelah mata pun dah tak ingin lagi. Abg dag tak tahu macam mana nak buat. Dia kesian dengan kakak. He did told me as well, kalau terjadi apa2 dia akan sentiasa beri nafkah. I told him, that a must, tanggungjawab kena buat.
But he did not tell me something, abt kakak had filled in the form tuntut fasakh. What ?????
I know him for quite a long time. But I never know how far about his marriage problem. Abg seldom told about his problem. Apalagi nak cerita pasal kakak. Sikit-sikit ada lah, I respect him for that, menjaga cerita hal elwal rumahtangga adalah satu ibadah juga.
And today, he told me what the people around said about him and his marriage. All the stories came from kakak. Even some of his friends did not believe for what they heard. And today, kakak was sent a “spy” too, to his workplace.
Susahnya untuk mempertahankan satu-satu perkahwinan. I’m still pray that they will still keep together. I hope kakak will see clearly for what she’s really want. I pity on her for not seeing what she had right now. But in the other hand, she might now better than me..right? She had lived with abg for more than 25 years. She knows better than me.
And, at this moment, while I’m writing here, abg, kakak , K (their best friend) and kadhi were at his home. They are having a discussion. And again, I can’t wait to know.
All the best kakak. Pray that Allah will open up your heart. Amin.
posted by cahaya at 11:30 PM
4 Comments:
Sweetheart ,
I understand how kakak feels , mungkin you tak nampak lagi or you cannot imagine how , lets put it this way , we woman nowadays thinks that if the man is not worth being with we always feel it is much better to be alone , at least tak sakit hati ... Darling , sakit hati tau kalau ingat suami kita date orang lain... tapi since you dah fikirkan it is for ibadat , carry on cos I feel that eventhough i setuju if a man married two , three or four but personally i would say that i would rather be with the children and enjoy tak ler sakit hati knowing your hubby is with his other wife ...
Sweetheart , I've many friend sama macam you and what i can say only the one with lots of money is happy itupun dengan anak mereka cos their hubby is always not with them ...
FIKIRKAN LAH ... YOU WILL BE WITH HIM FOR ALL YOUR LIFE ...
Dear anonymous,
I thank you again for remind me of something.I wish that you can read my blog from time to time. I'm really glad that I have someone out there that can see something I might not see by myself.
To be frank, I do think twice for what you have said lately. Those things I wrote here were what I'm really want to say, that sometimes I can't out there.
Bukan saya tak fikir semua tu. Banyak kali saya fikirkan. Saya tahu bukan perkara kecil yang nak dibuat, malah sesuatu yg melibatkan ramai org dan banyak perkara yg akan berubah sama sekali.
That's why I create this "TO BE OR NOT TO BE". As I said before, sometimes, what I've thought yesterday might be change today. I'm still in process. And of course, I'm always pray that Allah will always lead me to the right choice. Amin.
thank you again. please, feel free to write and tegurlah saya, mana2 yg you might fel tak kena. InsyaAllah, saya akan jadikan panduan.
Hello Sweetheart,
Please don't get me wrong , ONLY YOU KNOW BEST ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ....
Dearie , bukan i nak menyebelahkan kakak , I know how she feels tu jer , and i do understand your situation because Allah will find a good person for us , bezanya adakah kita share with other woman ataupun tidak and that is all.
I don't share my husband but I always tell him , if it is meant he will marry someone else later please let me go cos I've so many things to do in life. So if I am still his wife , apart of the thing yang kita buat kena refer or get his blessing , but if you are single , you owe nobody your right.
I've been married for 9 years ( hmm I guess I married young) but the experience of being someone's wife is a commitment and resposibility along with love and care.
Dearie , you are the only person who can make sure BIG decision.
Take Care.
hi again.
thanks again for coming again here. I'm really appreciate for what you have write here.
Sudah tentu tiap dari kita semua punya fikiran yg berbeza2. Cuma I kadangkala lebih suka jika ada pandangan lain. It;s just the matter I'll tke it or leave it. Mendengar dahulu itu lebih penting, cuma di akhirnya sudah pasti kita yg tahu apa yg terbaik bagi kita.
Same goes to polygamy. I can see that,you and I have a different point of view in this matter. Anyhow, we can find the best way to make win win situation. Coz I beleive there will be a time, at certain thing, you might be agree with me and at the other thing u might not, and vice versa.
I pray that you'll have a happy and blessing family.
I onsider that you are lucky than me..right now. You have the opportunity to grab all those "kebaikan" yg boleh dibuat oleh seorang isteri terhadap suami.
As we taught before, sudah dijanji oleh Allah, lakukan 3 perkara tersebut; kerjakan yg iperintahkan Allah, tinggalkan yg dilarang dan taat kpd suami, maka masuklah kamu (isteri2) ke dlm syurga ikut pintu2 mana yg kau sukai. See, how lucky you're now than me. U got the chance.
InsyaAllah, itulah juga impian saya, walau saya sedar betapa susahnya, cabaran dan dugaan, as you told me before.
Ok..u too, take care.
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