50-50
Hello.
I’ve been thinking something…. Sometimes, this such crazy idea would came out, especially when I’m in 50-50 situation. Why I called it 50-50 situation? That was my weakness. The very bad one ! Sometimes, I’ve made the decision, then shortly, I would changed my mind. But, sometimes, it would takes time too. After a few days, weeks, or months, it could be changed again…! I’ve been thinking how to overcome this problem. I have to learn, very hard, to stay with the decision that I’ve made by myself. I know I have to pray hard as well, and ask Allah to make myself stay constantly with whatever decision that I ever made or will make.
Not many people know what I’m having and facing right now. Not many people can understand. And not many people can accept what I’m doing right now. Polygamy is something that is not acceptance in our community. Not many people can accept this concept furthermore for apply in certain lifestyle. Only people who had been in polygamy will know how good bad it is.
I’ve few friends that be a second wife. Most of my friends are quite successful even I’ve seen their marriage are more better than monogamy. But I did not denied that sometimes, its not smooth as we think. Still, it can be manage. Rumahtangga mana yang tidak bergoyang,kan? Pasti ada dugaannya.
I got few friends as well, yang punya pendapat tersendiri dalam hidup berpoligami ni. Ramai yang tak bersetujulah. They will still keep saying that monogamy is still the best. And I’m always said, deep inside, not until if your husband want to marry another one..:) Then, by that day you will know it.
Yes, I know, they are trying to keep me see the truth all about this. They thought that I might make the wrong decision. I might not see clearly what will happen in the future. We’ve been fed with a such negative perception in polygamy. I think the community should start to educate people to teach positive not negative. We have to guide others in positive thinking not to make them scared with something that we never had or tried.
I know, marriage is not a ‘thing” for try and error. I see it as an ibadah. I would love to do just because of Allah. I want to take the good things from the marriage. Have a husband, built a family and working towards it. And again, I’m not trying to be perfect or to look perfect. I just want a little not much.
Emmmmmmmmm.
I’ve been thinking something…. Sometimes, this such crazy idea would came out, especially when I’m in 50-50 situation. Why I called it 50-50 situation? That was my weakness. The very bad one ! Sometimes, I’ve made the decision, then shortly, I would changed my mind. But, sometimes, it would takes time too. After a few days, weeks, or months, it could be changed again…! I’ve been thinking how to overcome this problem. I have to learn, very hard, to stay with the decision that I’ve made by myself. I know I have to pray hard as well, and ask Allah to make myself stay constantly with whatever decision that I ever made or will make.
Not many people know what I’m having and facing right now. Not many people can understand. And not many people can accept what I’m doing right now. Polygamy is something that is not acceptance in our community. Not many people can accept this concept furthermore for apply in certain lifestyle. Only people who had been in polygamy will know how good bad it is.
I’ve few friends that be a second wife. Most of my friends are quite successful even I’ve seen their marriage are more better than monogamy. But I did not denied that sometimes, its not smooth as we think. Still, it can be manage. Rumahtangga mana yang tidak bergoyang,kan? Pasti ada dugaannya.
I got few friends as well, yang punya pendapat tersendiri dalam hidup berpoligami ni. Ramai yang tak bersetujulah. They will still keep saying that monogamy is still the best. And I’m always said, deep inside, not until if your husband want to marry another one..:) Then, by that day you will know it.
Yes, I know, they are trying to keep me see the truth all about this. They thought that I might make the wrong decision. I might not see clearly what will happen in the future. We’ve been fed with a such negative perception in polygamy. I think the community should start to educate people to teach positive not negative. We have to guide others in positive thinking not to make them scared with something that we never had or tried.
I know, marriage is not a ‘thing” for try and error. I see it as an ibadah. I would love to do just because of Allah. I want to take the good things from the marriage. Have a husband, built a family and working towards it. And again, I’m not trying to be perfect or to look perfect. I just want a little not much.
Emmmmmmmmm.
posted by cahaya at 4:01 PM
2 Comments:
Sweetheart,
Well , I know you are very frustrated at some not so nice comment about being a second wife, for me personally I can tell you based on my life now ... A married woman :
1. If you want to settle down make sure there is something worth to be with him maybe love, maybe lots of money , maybe understanding ... why i say that is because if you ever fall for another man during your marriage and you fail ( like me ) i can always be with my hubby again cos he loves me and he understand me , 2. If he betray you , well orang kata kalau boleh kawin 2 kenapa tidak 3 kan - so if he give you money awak boleh spend it with your children later ...
So sweetheart , you must at least tau apa yang you kena lihat which I did not see when I nak kahwin dulu but I am lucky cos I've got a good husband ...
Sweetheart dah kahwin kan , we cannot turn back darling especially if you dah ada anak nanti ......
I know married man is so loving but ......... you will realise it different biler dah jadi isteri dia
dear anonymous,
I thank you for your comment. I'm not frustrated when I read ur comment.
I think u would know why I started this blog. As I said before, it will be my best place to write whatever I want write or feel, when I know that sometimes, I can't turn to anybody. I"m welcoming your comment. It's just that, maybe posting yg baru tu bunyi mcm "frust" jer dengar comment u..kan? Anyway, tak apa. No heart feEling.
You are right. I do agree with you. And falling to another man, after I'm married later, is the most bad thing that I'll ever face I guess. Takut jugak..kan. masa depan tak siapa yg tahu.
I know what you mean dear.
That's why as I said, put ibadah for the first place on the marriage that we want to step into. Bila kita ada matlamat, maka rasanya perjalanan itu tidak mungkin tersasar, jika kita sentiasa menjaganya.
What will happen in the future won't be know by anyone.
I will try my very own best to make the marriage work. I'm not married yet, but I'm in the process to be and I'm on doing my preparation. I know, that sometimes. I'm at the very high level of confident, while in the another day I'm flat and seems lost at one.
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